Dating tips for christian men
Thanks to the internet, at any given moment, there are thousands of people to choose from just at our fingertips. There is an array of choices, colors, styles, personalities, and body types right before his two little eyes.Not only that, but we are made to believe that the more choices, the better. With so many choices, it takes a whole lot of making-out to find the right one (insert sarcastic voice here).When our strengths and weaknesses are different, we can strengthen each other in the areas we’re weak in. She should also be passionate about the things you value most: God, academics, helping people, etc. Then you can be the definition of cool, which is making others cool.With these things in mind, you will end up pushing each other to be greater, instead of just staring at yourselves in a mirror. But we need to take a step back and stop reviewing that fantasy every time we meet a new guy.I know this is counterintuitive, but sometimes the harder you look for your future spouse, the more you creep out every guy at your Bible study. And two, two people who actually like and respect each other.I’ve heard these question countless times and have even been the one asking the question once upon a time.In Christian circles, it’s not uncommon to hear the women complaining that the men in their church just aren’t stepping up and initiating a relationship!
But I wanted others to learn from my mistakes, so I wanted to pass on some dating advice for college students.Ok, so it’s tempting to choose to date a girl who’s just like you.What really matters is finding a girl who can help you see things differently—that’s a window.I went to a Christian college where there was said to be one man to every seven women.Talk about poor odds for getting a “ring by spring”.So stop looking for your future husband and look for a date instead. What makes up a good marriage, the type of joy-filled marriage that people see and think, “When I grow up I want a relationship that looks like that” are a couple of things. These two things are almost equally important — with commitment to Jesus edging out the other by a nose.I know I’m really blowing the lid off the whole “Only go on a date with a man you intend to marry” thing that’s popular in Christian circles, but stay with me. But there are plenty of non-Christians who also have great marriages, so clearly the mutual respect and enjoyment of your spouse is a pretty big deal.It’s sad that this is how our society portrays the concept of finding the right relationship, because it couldn’t be more twisted and confusing than this.Yet, with the men to women ratio in Christian circles being what it is (almost always being more single women than men) sometimes I feel that this same problem presents itself within the church culture as well.These small details will help you set things up in a more efficient manner. They never have time to talk or to go here and there. They just want to know what is going on, only to prevent unexpected situations.Planning things early will create a romantic tension. You probably know already that the first date is the most important one. If you fail to impress her, chances are she will no longer answer your calls.